In the day to day experience of an Asperger child,
moments of peace are rare. Whatever you are thinking or doing, someone, either
a parent or teacher or maybe another child, will interrupt you to ask that you participate
in some activity, such as playing a game with a group of children. If you don’t
respond, or you resist their prodding, or you state clear and repeated
rejections of the idea, initial friendly overtures will turn into harsh words
and disapproval. The adult will express personal disappointment in your reluctance and increase the pressure.
The simple enjoyable act of reading or thinking has now become a problem. The adult considers that whatever you are doing is not only unimportant, but it makes them unhappy and you are responsible for their unhappiness. You are told that choosing to be alone means that you are depressed or unhappy and that joining the group will cheer you up, which isn’t true. If you protest that what you are reading, or drawing or building is more interesting than what the other children are doing, you are apt to be yelled at and physically relocated like a disobedient dog. Waves of anger that were hidden beneath the adult’s formerly soft persuasive words hit like a shock wave. The other children see all this and learn one of life’s big lessons. Obey and conform. The effect of being used to demonstrate this social principal is visceral and devastating.
The simple enjoyable act of reading or thinking has now become a problem. The adult considers that whatever you are doing is not only unimportant, but it makes them unhappy and you are responsible for their unhappiness. You are told that choosing to be alone means that you are depressed or unhappy and that joining the group will cheer you up, which isn’t true. If you protest that what you are reading, or drawing or building is more interesting than what the other children are doing, you are apt to be yelled at and physically relocated like a disobedient dog. Waves of anger that were hidden beneath the adult’s formerly soft persuasive words hit like a shock wave. The other children see all this and learn one of life’s big lessons. Obey and conform. The effect of being used to demonstrate this social principal is visceral and devastating.
It is said that Aspergers people can’t infer what is
going on in another person’s mind, but the big messages are clear to us. People will only like you if you obey their instructions, tell them
what they want to hear, and not when you get around to it, but right now!
Obedience demonstrates that a person will subordinate his or her happiness and
well-being to the group. Rules are often designed to insult and confuse people,
to challenge their morality or sense of fair play, for the purpose of testing
their willingness to shed their individual identity and follow the herd. The
Aspergers brain simply doesn’t understand this social compulsion, not because
we are dumb, defective, dangerous or disabled, but because inequality of status
is alien to our egalitarian need for fair play, justice and reason.
Modern society is ruthlessly hierarchical and
undemocratic. People are sorted by class and caste and culture, by wealth, by age,
by gender, by the illegitimate concept of race. This state of human affairs is
archaic and destructive of human potential when compared to the “flat earth” picture of reality in the
Asperger mind.
The building of massive pyramids was the dominant activity of ancient agrarian cultures because the pyramid was a physical model of the social hierarchy by which those on top controlled the status of the population. The same archaic social pyramid is strictly enforced today; only the titles have changed. Most astonishing is the belief on the part of the social majority that this manmade pyramid of social inequality, and the suffering it causes to millions of human beings, is as valid as the Laws of Physics, and essential to the structure of the universe.
C/ ushistory.org
This structure is alien to the Asperger perception of 'how it ought to be.'
The building of massive pyramids was the dominant activity of ancient agrarian cultures because the pyramid was a physical model of the social hierarchy by which those on top controlled the status of the population. The same archaic social pyramid is strictly enforced today; only the titles have changed. Most astonishing is the belief on the part of the social majority that this manmade pyramid of social inequality, and the suffering it causes to millions of human beings, is as valid as the Laws of Physics, and essential to the structure of the universe.
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